13 Ways to Deal with a Cheating Partner

We all like to think that we won't need to know the different ways to deal with a cheating partner. Sadly, some of us will find ourselves confronting the subject.

So what can you do if it happens to you? It's not always a simple issue; many of us would leave, while others would try to work it out. Here are some of the ways to deal with a cheating partner.

1. Don't Blame Yourself

One of the most important ways to deal with a cheating partner is to place the blame where it belongs - with them. Some people react to being caught out by blaming their partner.

It was their other half's fault for not giving them what they need! But nobody pushes someone into someone else's bed. Don't let them avoid the responsibility for what they have done.

2. Confront Your Partner

Now that you know that your partner cheated on you, it's time to confront them. Keeping this information to yourself won't help things so it's best to get things off your chest.

How you confront your partner will be up to you, but it's best to try and stay as calm as possible. I know you're angry and humiliated, but it's better to have a calm conversation and state the facts.

3. What Can You Forgive?

Everyone has a different concept of what they can forgive. For me, any cheating would be a deal breaker and would end the relationship. Other women feel they can forgive a kiss, but not sex.

You may not know what you could deal with until it actually happens. Perhaps you could forgive one person but not another.

4. Are They Sorry?

It's very easy for someone to say that they are sorry for cheating, but do they mean it? If they are genuinely contrite, rather than sorry they got caught, it may be worth considering forgiving them and continuing the relationship.

The problem is that once the trust has been broken, it's rather difficult to believe anything the cheating person says …

5. Set Rules

If you feel that you can trust them in spite of what they've done, setting rules may help. For example, they won't keep their phone secret, or they agree to end contact with the other person.

Ask them to follow rules that make you feel more comfortable. This shows a commitment on their part to rebuild the relationship.

6. Time

When your partner has cheated, it will take a long time to rebuild the relationship. Even if you believe that they truly regret what they did, you cannot just wipe the slate clean and act like it didn't happen. Both of you need to be prepared for it to take as long as necessary.

7. Second Chance

Only you can make the decision about whether or not to give your partner a second chance. If you decide it's worth it, make it very clear that they only have one more chance - and stick to that.

If they cheat on you a second time, they should be history. Remember the saying 'Fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice, shame on me …'

8. Renegotiate

Just because your partner seems genuinely sorry doesn't mean everything is okay. A conscious decision was made to cheat and it is their responsibility to make things up to you. Renegotiate the terms of your relationship in detail so your expectations are clear.

9. Don't Try to See The Other Side

You might spend a length of time trying to make sense of this whole ordeal, but don't. There is no excuse for cheating and trying to see things from your partner's perspective and taking their side will not help you or your relationship at all.

10. Find Support

This is obviously a very trying time for you and surrounding yourself with supportive friends and family is imperative. We all need time alone, but don't shut your friends and family out - they want to help!

11. Take Care

While your mind might be busy thinking about your relationship, don't forget to take care of yourself. You're going through a difficult time right now, but that doesn't mean you should neglect yourself. You'll also feel better when you take care of yourself and make yourself presentable!

12. Let Go

If you decide to forgive your partner and try again, remember that constantly bringing up the infidelity and throwing it in their face won't help. If you're unable to truly let go and start over, it might be better to just move on without your partner.

13. Move on

If the relationship cannot be salvaged or you feel that cheating is unforgivable, then your only option is to move on.

That's easier said than done when you may have invested a lot of time and emotional energy in your partner, but it has to be done.

In time, you'll recover your confidence and joie de vivre, and find someone who thinks so highly of you that they would never want anyone else.

Being cheated on leaves you with some tough decisions to make. You may feel reluctant to break up a long relationship, or worry about how you'll cope financially and emotionally if you break up.

If you want to continue, that is your right, but never stay in a relationship because of low self-esteem or the fear of being alone.

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Shock as ‘dead man’ walks out of Naivasha hospital mortuary

Shock and disbelief engulfed Naivasha District Hospital when a man who had been certified dead walked out of the mortuary 20 hou

rs after his “death”.

There was drama as mortuary attendants scampered for dear life when the dead man stirred “back to life”.

When he came to, from his deathly slumber, the 24-year-old suddenly realised that he was among the dead and asked to be let out.

The mortuary attendants did not wait, they took to their heels in all directions.

“One of the attendants ran towards the gate shouting. This drew my attention and I went to see what was happening,” said a guard at the hospital.

The guard entered the morgue in time to see “one of the dead” move his legs and stretch his hands. He also took took off, aghast. He then informed nurses and doctors about the strange goings-on.

The medics went to the mortuary to confirm this, and true to his words they found the man alive and moved him to a ward.

 Paul Mutora, who hails from Limuru,  was admitted to  the hospital on Tuesday in critical condition after he attempted to commit suicide by drinking a pesticide.

Mutora allegedly took the poison after fell he fell out with his father.

The superintendent in charge of the hospital, Dr Joseph Mburu, confirmed the incident saying investigations had been launched to establish how the patient was wrongfully declared dead.

Donkey cart

He attributed the patients ‘dead’ condition to a drug that is used on patients who have taken poisonous substances.

“The drug makes the heart to beat slower and this might have confused medical personnel, but the victim was saved before he could be embalmed,” he said.

Mburu said the patient had previous records of attempted suicide, adding that he was responding well to treatment and would be released from the hospital in the next 24 hours.

According to his father, Mr James Karanja, he had an argument with Paul Mutora after he damaged a donkey cart, which he had sent him to ferry farm produce to the market with.

After the argument, Mutora threatened to commit suicide and hours later he drunk the poison.

“He was rushed to Naivasha District Hospital in critical condition and admitted,” he said.

The father explained that the condition of his son deteriorated on Wednesday evening and at 11pm, the family was informed he had passed on and the body moved to the hospital morgue.

The family started communicating the sad news to friends and relatives.

“The family was notified and the body wheeled to the morgue where it was put on the cold slab with an identification tag. As a family, we started informing relatives of the sad news,” said Karanja.

Yesterday morning, Karanja, accompanied by relatives visited the morgue and viewed the body and returned home to start funeral arrangements.

 “But in the afternoon we were informed, he was alive and were left in shock. We have indeed confirmed he is alive and has been moved to the ward,” the father said.

Mutora who looked confused and groggy asked for forgiveness from his father, saying he had learnt his lesson.

“This was a mistake from the start and I apologise to my father as I prepare to go and take care of my wife and child,” he said.

News that a dead man had ressurrected spread like a bushfire in the lakeside town, attracting scores of curious members of the public who wanted to have a look at the man said to have gone to hell and back.

However, this was not the first time for a ‘dead man’ to come back to the land of the living.

In 2012, a man was  killed by mourners in Nairobi after he came  as they were preparing to transport his body upcountry for burial.

The young man reportedly knocked off the cover of his coffin, sat down and started to untie his tie. Wrongly believing the former university student was a ghost, the mourners attacked him with stones, and killed him instantly.

-www.standardmedia.co.ke

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Moses Wetangula escapes unhurt after his car is shot at in Nairobi

 Bungoma Senator elect Moses Wetangula escapes unhurt after his car was shot at near City Mortuary in Nairobi as he drove home.

More to follow...

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Why Nairobi marriages flop

December, the month of love, is gone; thousands of come-we-stay marriages consummated, the dust settled on expensive honeymoons. But as newly weds settle down to the financial ravages of January, a sobering fact: Three out of ten people would not marry their current spouse again, according to an Infotrak survey. The survey, Status of the Institution of Marriage in Kenya of 2011, revealed that more than 60 per cent of Kenyans are unhappy in their marriages, 29 per cent of marriages are headed for the rocks, with more than half of the respondents reporting serious conflicts in their marriages at least once every month. And nowhere, perhaps, is this truer than in Nairobi. Atta Gori, a PR consultant and happily married family man, says the city comes with unique challenges that can easily cause a couple to drift a part. “My wife and I spend on average four hours daily in traffic between Ongata Rongai and Nairobi, where we both pursue different vocations. It is stressful and tiring. By the time we get home at around 8pm in the evening, we are both tired. Yet we still have to help our seven-year-old sons with homework, put them to sleep, take a bath, and have dinner. “We sleep late on full stomachs, barely half an hour after dinner, because we have to wake up in the wee hours of the morning. By the end of the week, we are exhausted. The weekends are no less busy with church activities, laundry, chamas and family engagements. Nairobi life is tough and miserable. That is why I miss village life, which, unfortunately, I can only enjoy only once a year,” he says.
Mueni Wambua, a city resident who describes herself as a ‘realist’ concurs, saying, “There is a sense of ‘community’ in the village that keeps couples together. They ask themselves ‘if so and so’s marriages broke down, we need to check ours....’ But in Nairobi, it’s every man for himself and peer pressure and the stress of keeping up with the Kamaus can put a lot of strain on a marriage.” So couples live under one roof, do communal shopping and pool their finances together to pay bills but retire for the night in separate bedrooms or, if in one bed, separated by an invisible ‘wall of China’. They might be seen together in social places, in church and family functions, yet the spark died ages ago. Couples locked in loveless marriages often say it “for the sake of the children”. But prohibitive legal costs – estimated by a local daily to range between Sh200,000 and Sh500,000 - and messy court process littered with dirty linen discourage troubled couples from terminating their marriages while others hang on because of family influence or religious factors. Nairobi-based relationships expert Dr Chris Hart, however, says there are lots of couples who are very happy in their unions. “It’s just a small group of people who are unhappy and unfortunately they are prominent. This makes them noticeable - hence making them look like they represent the bigger picture of the state of marriage in Kenya. But in the real sense of the word, the institution of marriage is way better now than it was years ago,” explains Dr Hart. But he points out that the problem for Nairobi couples could stem from being uprooted from rustic rural settings with a different culture to an urban jungle.
-The Nairobian

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6 Signs Your Relationship is Strong Enough to Last a Lifetime

It's a new year, which means it's time for new goals, new resolutions, a new you. But hopefully the one thing you won't be trading in this new year is your relationship. I'm getting to the age where most of my peers are walking down the aisle, where I'm witness to new and blossoming love. And admittedly, as a married woman who just celebrated her sixth wedding anniversary (by working at the hospital for a 12-hour shift, woohoo!), I am starting to feel a little jaded about love. I know the truth about marriage. That the shiny new presents, the grandiose party, and the blissful honeymoon suite with the in-room hot tub does not a happy marriage make. Relationships take on all sorts of different shapes and sizes these days, with couples choosing not to marry yet live together, or to forge non-traditional family units. So just what is the key to a lifelong, lasting union? Check out these 6 signs your relationship will last a lifetime!

1. Trust your gut

Apparently, the real test of a relationship's longevity is actually incredibly simple. Time reports that a group of scientists measured how happy couples were by simply showing them pictures and asking them to rate them as either "happy" or "sad" after first asking them to look at pictures of their spouses. The couples who took a long time ranking the "sad" pictures had happier unions, while those who quickly identified the sad pictures ending up breaking up. The reason? At some unconscious level, unhappy couples who looked at pictures of their spouses were already in a "sad" mood, and thus could easily and quickly pinpoint the sad pictures.

2. You are a better person with your partner than you are without

I can honestly say that my relationship with my husband has made me a better person. When we first started dating, I was a miserably moody, unconfident, and insecure person and I took out a lot of my feelings on him. These days, I still struggle with those issues, but he has helped me to learn how to "fight fair," and he has been the rock that I know will never leave.

3. You don't depend on each other for happiness

While I don't think this is meant to be confused with the fact that marriage can make people happier, I also fell trap to the thinking early on in my marriage that my title as a "Mrs." was also my ticket to happiness. I thought for sure that having a husband who loved me would make me the confident, skinny, happy person I longed to be, but lo and behold - that didn't happen. Marriage is a source of happiness no doubt, but marriage alone cannot make you happy.

4. You don't believe in soul mates

There's an inherent and underlying danger to the premise of soul mates when you really think about it. After all, if it's true that we have soul mates, then who are we to take an active part in our relationship? If you're destined to be, you will be, right? Well, no. Unlike the concept of effortless love that soul mates can portray, choosing a relationship is an entirely different matter. Personally, I love how blogger Hannah puts it, when she declared to the world in a post gone viral that her husband was not her soulmate: "... I delight in choosing to love him every day. I like it better this way, with the pressure on me and not on fate, cosmos, or divinity. I will not fall out of love, cannot fall out of love, because I willingly dived in and I'm choosing daily to stay in. This is my joyous task, my daily decision."

5. You have realistic expectations

Glamour Magazine reported that one of the easiest and best ways to tell if a relationship will last is if a couple displays realistic images and portrayals about each other and their relationship - meaning, no unrealistic expectations about a life of pure bliss and toilet paper rolls that change themselves. This also means really grasping the concept that people don't change, and it's pretty much always a recipe for disaster if you go into a relationship expecting your partner to change for you.

6. You dream about the future together

Not in a way that keeps you from enjoying the present together, of course, but in a way that ensures that you will have a future together. Setting goals together, making plans for the kind of life you want to live with your partner, and checking in along the way helps to keep you connected as you dream together.

-Babble.com

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Mystery of Abduba Dida’s double appointment

 It is now emerging that President Uhuru Kenyatta and Devolution Cabinet Secretary Anne Waiguru made parallel appointments of Abduba Dida as the chairman of the Constituencies Development Fund.

Following the appointed of the same person in two separate Gazette Notices on different dates, questions are arising as to whether there is a communication breakdown in the Jubilee administration.

Queries are also being raised as to whether the President and his Cabinet are getting sound legal advice.

Ms Waiguru appointed Dida on December 27, 2013, through Gazette Notice Vol. CXV-No.181 while the President made the same appointment on December 31, 2013, four days later, through Gazette Notice Vol CXV-183.

The two Gazette notices refer “powers conferred by Section 5 (4) of the CDF Act 2013” in making the appointments.  However, both the President’s and Cabinet Secretary’s appointments were irregular.

Under the CDF Act 2013, it is only the Cabinet Secretary responsible for matters dealing with CDF (Devolution Ministry in this case) who has powers to appoint a chair of the board, but that appointment is restricted as the chair has to come from among members of the CDF Board, who also must have been vetted by Parliament.

The Devolution Secretary has since moved to correct her mistakes and revoked the appointment through Special Gazette Notice Vol. CVX-No.3 of January 3, 2014. The President is yet to rescind his appointment but sources indicate it will be done by Friday.

The notice signed by Waiguru stated: “It is notified for the information to the general public that Gazette Notice No. 15728 of 2013, issued under section 5 (4) of the Constituency Development Fund Act stands revoked.”

Dida’s appointment sparked outrage with MPs accusing President Uhuru of violating the law by appointing him. This is the second time the Jubilee administration has been embarrassed by being forced to withdraw an appointment due to public pressure.

Last year, the President was forced to withdrew the gazettement of former Naivasha MP John Mututho as chairman of the National Authority for the Campaign Against Drug and Substance Abuse since he made the appointment unprocedurally.

RUTO’S DEFENCE

Yesterday, Deputy President William Ruto defended the revocation of Dida’s appointment as chairman of the CDF. Ruto said the decision was arrived at after realizing the appointment of the former teacher-turned-politician did not follow due process.

He said the President had revoked the appointment to allow the vetting process by Parliament as required by the law.

“This is not the first time the President has had to revoke an appointment, last year we saw him withdraw the name of Nacada boss John Muthuto and we saw the man who is really passionate about his job get his post after vetting by Parliament,” Mr Ruto said.

The Deputy President revealed that Dida would get the job once all the legal processes are finalised to pave the way for his gazettement.

Nyamira Senator Mong’are Bwo Okong’o and Lugari MP Ayub Savula welcomed the move by the President to revoke the appointment of Dida saying that will allow due process to take its course.

Okong’o challenged Kenyatta to seek wider consultation before making civil service appointments as revocating them was costly and likely to damage his reputation.

“It is important the President has realised he erred in the appointment and has decided to correct it, which is a good gesture, but he should in future receive proper legal advice before making appointments,” Okongo told The Standard.

Savula said Attorney General Githu Muigai had failed in his duty as legal adviser to the government and by extension had embarrassed the President.

He said the President violated the CDF Act, which requires that the Cabinet Secretary for Devolution forward three names to parliament for approval before picking one from the list

 “We are not against anyone taking up positions in government but the law is clear on the procedure of making appointments with regard to chairpersons of parastatals, and that must be followed,” Savula said.

The chairman of the National Assembly’s CDF committee, Moses Lessonet, asked the government to speed up the appointment of the CDF board chairman so as not to affect the disbursement of money to constituencies as the seat is vacant.

“The President appointed Dida and then revoked the appointment of Ms Jennifer Nafula Barasa, meaning the position is currently vacant,” the Eldama Ravine MP said.

The chief executive officer takes over in an acting capacity in the absence of the board chair but cannot approve disbursements to constitution.

-www.standardmedia.co.ke

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Comedy King Churchill reveals his greatest regret in 2013

Churchill’s greatest regret in 2013 Most of us view celebrities as ‘super humans’. Probably due to their lavish lifestyles and almost picture perfect lives.  However, they too have skeletons in their closets. Recently comedian Daniel Ndambuki aka Churchill confessed to have made ‘big’ mistakes last year. He claimed on his FB page to have ‘trusted the wrong people.’

“What is your biggest regret of 2013? Mine was trusting people who I shouldn’t have,” he wrote. This came after he asked his fans to express their 2013 regrets. These sentiments left Heads Up wondering who exactly shortchanged the comedian.
-The Nairobian

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The King’ gives Nairobi 6,000 condoms a week

His name did not appear in the long list of nominees for presidential awards during the Golden Jubilee celebrations on December 12. But this Nairobian, crowned ‘King of Condoms’, has probably saved hundreds of lives with his simple message: ‘Use Protection’. Stanley Ngara eats, walks and talks condoms, and wherever he speaks, on proper use of the protective sheaths, he leaves behind an incredible mark, at least according to many who know him. Ngara, a programme officer with Liverpool VCT, has for 11 years been teaching Kenyans about safe sex since he was crowned ‘King of Condom’ three years ago. Armed with thousands of condoms and his eloquent message for Nairobians, Ngara has managed to get the ears of many.
In a week, he distributes about 6,000 condoms and convinces many others to buy them in shops and pharmacies. “We need to believe in condoms and take them with faith and attitude like the one we have on umbrellas when it rains,” he told The Nairobian. His message is laced with humour and packaged according to the audience’s status besides involving them in stunning practical lessons. His peculiar attire and crown amuses his listeners. “I thought of this idea after I established that when you do the same thing with same people you get same results. Innovation and fresh tactics help in driving the message home,” he said. On November 19 at a city hotel, he tutored CEOs drawn from public and private sector on condom usage and he got a rare standing ovation.
 “Many of us don’t know how to use and handle the condoms properly while others think they interfere with emotions and ecstasy during intercourse but that is not true,” he says.
-The nairobian

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Angry husband beats up ‘sex stimulant’ herbalist

A passenger attacked a herbalist aboard a Rongai bus after he forced his wife to buy a ‘sex stimulant’. A witness told The Nairobian, that the smartly dressed herbalist boarded the bus at the Railways bus terminus. Carrying a large bag containing his herbal medicine, he convinced passengers to buy the products. “He was selling different varieties of products.  Some, he claimed, cure persistent coughs, low libido, headaches, body oduors and even smelly feet,” said the witness. The man approached one of the young women and tried to convince her to buy his ‘libido stimulant’ for her husband.
“Some of these Nairobi men are poor in bed. Get some for your husband today,” he told the young woman. Unknown to him, the woman was seated with her husband who was angered by his claims. The man grabbed the herbalist by the collar and beat him up. The driver was forced to pull over forcing the herbalist to alight from the bus.
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Why rail project could be Kenya’s biggest scandal yet

The controversy over Kenya’s second railway tender is expected to escalate following fresh revelations that the State Law Office had raised a stink over what it terms exaggerated construction costs.

The red flag, according to documents seen by The Standard on Saturday, was raised long before the construction was commissioned by President Uhuru Kenyatta in November last year.

The new revelations may come as a slap

in the face of the President and his deputy, William Ruto, who during their recent tour of Rift Valley berated Nandi Hills MP Alfred Keter for allegedly raising the issue at the behest of opponents of the Jubilee.

In a comparative analysis of the cost of the railways Kenya and Ethiopia are building, the Attorney General Githu Muigai raised serious integrity questions about how the total cost rose from the initial Sh220, 921,502, 221.08 quoted by China Road and Bridge Corporation in its acceptance of the tender award letter dated July 2012 to the current Sh1.3 trillion.

The variations are shaping the railway project into the country’s biggest financial scandal, beating the Goldenberg, Anglo-leasing and Triton frauds.

The tendering concerns are informed by a comparative analysis of the railway projects being undertaken by Kenya and Ethiopia. While the Kenyan one is of inferior technology and covering half the distance Ethiopia is constructing, it was expected to cost the government $3.804 billion (Sh334.8 billion) compared with $3.9 billion (Sh343.2 billion) used by Ethiopia.

The documents further show the locomotives and rolling stocks that include 56 diesel locomotives, 1,620 freight wagons, 40 passenger coaches and one simulator would have cost $1.147 billion (Sh100.936 billion).

The Ethiopian locomotives and rolling stocks consisting 35 electric locomotives, six diesel shunting locomotives, 1,100 freight wagons, 30 passenger coaches and one simulator will cost $230 million (Sh20.24 billion). Construction of the 485km Kenyan railway will require $2.657 billion (Sh233.816 billion) compared with Ethiopia’s budget of $3.67 billion (Sh322.96 billion) to build 756km from Addis Ababa to Djibouti port on the Red Sea coast.

The review upwards of the railway budget elicited questions from managing director of the Public Procurement Oversight Authority MJO Juma, who since March this year has unsuccessfully sought answers from the ministry over the discrepancies in the tender and raised the matter of the variations in tendering with the AG.

The railway project scandal is a continuation of a “tradition” that began in 1992 which demonstrates that every time a new regime ascends to power its first mega financial undertaking is a rip-off of the Exchequer.

In a letter dated March 7, 2013, Mr Juma wrote: “We have not had sight of the resultant contract signed between Kenya Railways and M/s China Road and Bridge Corporation following the negotiations of the grant between the two governments. In the absence of the contract, we are unable to discern the negotiations and contractual terms agreed between yourselves and the contractor to enable us to determine the applicability of or otherwise of not only Section 6 (1) of the (Public Procurement and Disposal) Act.”

In his reply, Prof Muigai termed the process as inconsistent with the law.

“I must record that it is worrying that a procuring entity can pick and choose to alternate procurement methodologies as alleged over the same subject matter and both of which alternatives require external endorsement because neither alternatives admits open competition,” he says.

The chief government legal advisor goes on to debunk the explanation given by Transport Secretary Michael Kamau that deal was government-to-government agreement. He argues that the idea should have been sealed through a treaty.

“Are G-to-G a method of procurement or would such agreements merely form the basis of future traditional procurement under various areas of cooperation documented under the G-to-G? More worrying is the increasing phenomenon of government agreements employing G-to-G tool to circumvent the requirements of the…(law),” he explains.

Annulled and varied

It is against this backdrop the State Law Office has done a comparative analysis of the Kenya and Ethiopian railway projects.

The two have argued that tendering process was irregular, although in documents seen by The Standard on Saturday, the former Kenya Railways Corporation Managing director Nduva Muli explained the variation of the procurement procedures as informed by the fact the project is government-to-government deal.

In his response to a request for advice sought by the PPOA boss, Prof Muigai describes as irregular the G-to-G procurement process, saying it was not a treaty between the Government of Kenya and China.

In a letter acknowledgement of the contract award, China Road and Bridge Corporation (Kenya) General Manager Li Qiang, says: “We hereby give a formal unconditional acceptance of the award of the project…exclusive of all taxes, duties and other levies such as value added tax, customs duties withholding tax, etc.” the letter puts the total cost of the railway project at Sh220 billion.

According to the November edition of Fortune magazine, the Ethiopian project was to cost $2 billion (Sh176 billion) to link Djibouti to the Ethiopian capital, which includes additional works.

Despite the questions being raised in Parliament how the figure jumped from Sh220 to Sh334.8 billion then Sh1.3 trillion, the Jubilee government maintains the deal was above board.

The initial contract was annulled and later varied by former Transport Minister Chirau Ali Mwakwere. Mwakwere, following investigations by Inspectorate of State Corporations is remembered for similarly varying a tender for supply of two ferries for which the state paid Sh1.2 billion instead the initial Sh800 million.

The project was given the nod despite Prof Muigai and Mr Juma’s, queries about the mode of tendering, which they adjudged as irregular as it failed to meet laid down regulations.

In their correspondence with managing director of Kenya Railways Corporation Nduva Muli (who incidentally is Transport principal secretary), Prof Muigai and Mr Juma query how and when the cost of the railway was varied from the initial Sh220 billion.

The same queries were raised by Mr Ruto, despite attending the ground-breaking ceremony of the project expected to conclude in 2017.

The latest queries come on the back damning accusations and counter-accusations of corruption between Jubilee coalition partners over the tender.

-www.standardmedia.co.ke

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Three police bosses dismissed after being found unsuitable to hold office

Three senior police officers have been sent packing in the latest phase of institutional reforms designed to rid the service of corrup

tion, incompetence and a history of human rights violations.

The officers were retired from service after failing in the vetting process by the National Police Service Commission (NSPC), it was announced yesterday.

Senior Deputy Commissioner of Police Francis Okonya, Senior Deputy Commissioner of Police in charge of police reforms Jonathan Koskei and Senior Deputy Commissioner of Police in the office of the Inspector General of Police Peter Eregae were all found unsuitable to serve.

They were the first casualties of the vetting exercise, which kicked off in December, to establish officers’ suitability for the jobs they currently hold.

Those who survived the chop were General Service Unit (GSU) Commandant William Saiya, Kiganjo Police Training College Commandant Peter Kavila, the Director of the Small Arms Secretariat John Patrick Ochieng and Abdi Shurie of the Administration Police Training College.

The commission made the announcement yesterday at their offices in Westlands, Nairobi, after evaluating the officers’ performance during the interview.

“We have informed all the affected officers on how they performed and those not happy with our verdict can appeal,” said commission chairman Johnston Kavuludi.

The vetting standards included officer’s satisfaction of entry and training requirements, their professional conduct and discipline, integrity, financial probity, and respect for human rights.

Those removed from the service will have the opportunity to appeal the panel’s findings during vetting review. Among the NPSC members are retired Justice Sarah Ondeyo and former Deputy Director of the Kenya Anti-Corruption Authority John Mutonyi.

The stage is now been set for the vetting of the second batch of other senior police officers, which starts next week.

The commission has already asked Senior Assistant Commissioners of Police and Assistant Commissioners of police in both regular and Administration Police to return their vetting tools by next Tuesday in readiness for the exercise.

Yesterday, Kavuludi confirmed that the officers were informed to return the forms to the Skypark offices of the commission in Westlands ahead of their vetting.

The vetting of 26 Deputy Commissioners of Police will start on Monday before that of 66 Senior Assistant Commissioners of Police and 115 Assistant Commissioners of Police start.

This is expected to last for four to six weeks.

Apart from the public questioning, the officers were supplied with a questionnaire which among others sought to establish if the police officers have ever been involved in activities of illegal groupings, cartels, banned societies and political parties.

Those who have money stashed in foreign accounts were required to give details on the same and they were also asked to provide their bank accounts for the last two years.

The applicable vetting standards included officer’s satisfaction of entry and training requirements, their professional conduct and discipline, integrity and financial probity, and respect for human rights.

Officers who satisfy the Commission with regard to competence and suitability will be retained and those who do not will be removed from service.

The officers who have been successful in the vetting will automatically be named to the rank of Senior Assistant Inspector General of Police (SAIG) in a new structure.

  A new structure for the service has directorates at various levels.

 In the national structure, there will be 10 SAIGs. Two will be in the Inspector General’s office, four in the office of the Deputy IG in charge of police, three in the office of DIG for AP and one in the office of Director of CID.

“There will be four SAIGs in the office of DIG Kenya Police, namely the Principal Assistant, commandant GSU, Commandant Kenya Police College and Commandant Anti- Stock Theft Unit,” said commission chairman Kavuludi.

Defend

“There will be no group vetting but we will call each officer to come and defend him or herself. We are looking into the integrity and suitability of individuals,” added Kavuludi.

He added that the process and procedures would be consistently applied in accordance with constitution.

Those in the vetting panel include NPSC Commissioners Kavuludi, Ronald Musengi, Mary Owour, Mohamed Murshid, David Kimaiyo, Samuel Arachi, Grace Kaindi, Francis Muhoro, Benedict Nzioki, Nyumba Kumi initiative committee members Joseph Kaguthi (Chairman) and two members of his committee security expert Simiyu Werunga and former Criminal Investigations Department Director Francis Sang and former police officer Mike Harris and don Kimani Njogu.

-The standardmedia

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